About Tantric Massage
What is tantric massage?
It’s a practice of conscious touch. Not therapeutic massage. Not sex work. Something between — or beyond both. It works with the body as a map of consciousness. With breath as a doorway to presence. With touch as a language that speaks where words can’t reach. The goal isn’t release or relaxation (though both may happen). The goal is presence. Being fully here, in your body, without performing or achieving anything.
Is it sexual?
It includes the whole body. Including areas typically considered sexual. But the intention isn’t sexual gratification. It’s about opening to sensation without an agenda. About feeling what’s there without needing it to be anything else.
Some people experience arousal. Some don’t. Both are welcome. The work isn’t about suppressing or chasing any particular state. It’s about being present with whatever arises.
As someone who has both given and received tantric massage, I can say: it’s above sexual. Not “not sexual” — above it. Sexuality can be present, but it’s not the centre. It’s one colour in a much wider spectrum of what the body can feel and experience.
Is this legal?
Yes. Tantric massage is a legitimate bodywork practice. It’s not sex work. There’s no exchange of sexual services. Boundaries are clear and respected. If you’re asking this question because you’re unsure what you’re looking for, take time to clarify your intention before booking.
Safety & Boundaries
Is it safe?
Yes. Safety is foundational to this work. Your boundaries are respected completely. We discuss limits before we begin. You remain clothed or undressed according to your comfort. You can pause or stop at any time. I don’t do this work to take anything from you. I do it to create space where you can simply be.
What if I feel uncomfortable during the session?
You say so. Immediately. This work requires honesty. If something doesn’t feel right — speak. We adjust. We pause. We stop if needed. You can always narrow boundaries during the session, but never expand them. What we agreed to beforehand is the maximum — you’re always free to ask for less touch, never more. Discomfort isn’t always bad (sometimes the body needs to feel what it’s been avoiding), but you’re always in control of what continues and what doesn’t.
Can I set boundaries about where I’m touched?
Absolutely. Before we begin, we discuss what’s welcome and what isn’t. Your body. Your boundaries. No explanation needed. Important: boundaries set during our conversation cannot be expanded during the session — only narrowed. If you say beforehand that certain areas are off-limits, they remain off-limits. You can always ask for less touch, but not more. This protects both of us and keeps the space safe.
What if I start crying or have an emotional release?
That’s welcome. The body stores everything — grief, fear, shame, things we don’t consciously remember. Sometimes touch opens what’s been held. If that happens, you’re held in it. Not fixed. Not rushed. Just witnessed. Emotion isn’t a problem to solve. It’s information. And it’s safe to feel it here.
Preparation & Logistics
Do I need experience with tantra or meditation?
No. Most people I work with are new to this. The only thing you need is curiosity and the willingness to be present with yourself. I’ll guide you through everything.
How should I prepare?
Shower beforehand if it helps you feel comfortable. Wear something easy to remove. Avoid heavy meals or alcohol before the session. Beyond that — arrive as you are. Try not to have expectations. This isn’t about achieving a particular state. It’s about discovering what’s already here.
What should I wear?
Whatever feels comfortable. You’ll have the option to undress to your comfort level once we begin. Some people stay partially clothed. Some don’t. There’s no “correct” way.
Should I shave or groom myself?
Only if you want to. Your body is welcome exactly as it is.
What if I’m on my period?
Sessions can continue during menstruation if you’re comfortable. Some women find it’s a powerful time to do this work. Others prefer to reschedule. Your choice.
The Session
How long is a session?
3.5 to 4 hours total. This includes arrival (30 minutes), the opening ceremony and the massage itself (2.5 hours), and integration time (up to 1 hour). This isn’t a quick experience. It takes time to arrive. To open. To allow.
What happens during a session?
We begin with tea and conversation. A moment to arrive, to settle, to set intention. Then, guided breath work to quiet the mind and open the body. Then the massage — slow, conscious touch through your entire body. Afterwards, time to rest and integrate. We close with tea and reflection. There’s no rush.
Will I be naked?
That’s up to you. Some people are fully undressed. Some stay partially clothed. We discuss this beforehand, and you can adjust during the session if your comfort level changes — but only to be more covered, never less. Boundaries can be narrowed, not expanded.
Do you get naked?
No. I remain clothed. This isn’t mutual. You’re receiving. I’m holding space.
What kind of touch is involved?
Slow. Conscious. Present. The pressure varies — sometimes deep, sometimes barely there. The intention isn’t to “fix” tension or create a particular sensation. It’s to invite your awareness into parts of your body you may have been ignoring or numbing.
Will you touch my genitals or breasts?
Only if you explicitly consent to it beforehand during our initial conversation. These areas can be included as part of the whole-body experience, but they’re never assumed. Boundaries set before the session cannot be expanded during it — only narrowed. If you’re uncertain beforehand, we don’t include these areas. You cannot change your mind to include more touch during the session, but you can always ask for less or stop entirely.
After the Session
What happens after?
The work doesn’t end when you leave. Many people notice shifts in the days and weeks following. You might feel more present. More aware of your body. More comfortable setting boundaries. More willing to feel what you’ve been avoiding. This isn’t always comfortable. Presence isn’t always peaceful. But it’s real.
Can I book multiple sessions?
Yes. Some people come out of curiosity. Others return regularly as part of their practice. There’s no expectation either way. This work meets you where you are.
How often should I come?
There’s no “should.” Some people benefit from regular sessions (monthly or quarterly). Others come once and integrate for years. Listen to your body. You’ll know when (or if) you want to return.
Booking & Practical Questions
Where are sessions held?
In Manchester. The exact location is shared once a session is booked. It’s a private, quiet space designed for this work.
How do I book?
Contact me. We’ll have a brief conversation (by email or phone) to ensure this work feels right for you. Then we schedule a time.
How much does it cost?
Pricing is discussed during our initial conversation. Sessions are an investment — in time, in presence, in yourself.
Can men book sessions?
I work exclusively with women. This isn’t a judgment. It’s where my practice is focused.
What if I fall asleep during the session?
That’s fine. Sleep is a form of surrender. Sometimes the body needs to let go completely. If you drift off, I continue working or simply hold space. There’s no “wrong” way to receive this work.
Is this therapy?
No. I’m not a therapist. This work isn’t about analysing, diagnosing, or treating anything. It’s somatic — working directly with the body and sensation. If you’re dealing with trauma or mental health challenges, tantric massage can complement therapy, but it doesn’t replace it.
What’s the difference between this and a “happy ending massage”?
Intention. A “happy ending” has a goal — physical release, usually rushed, transactional. This work has no goal. No outcome to achieve. No peak to reach. It’s about presence, not performance. About feeling, not finishing. The difference isn’t just what happens, but why and how.
Still have questions?
I’m happy to answer anything not covered here.