The oil you choose matters. I use sweet almond oil because I’ve experienced it both giving and receiving — and I understand why it works. Let me tell you why.

The Body Knows

Tantric massage is about creating space where the body can relax, open, and just be.
The oil matters. It touches every inch of skin. It gets absorbed. It carries warmth and intention. Some oils sit on the surface. Some absorb too quickly; you have to reapply constantly, which breaks the flow. Some have a strong smell that pulls you out of the moment.

The oil I use is different.

What Makes Sweet Almond Oil Work

It absorbs at the right speed. Sweet almond oil absorbs fairly quickly, but not so soon that you need to keep reapplying it. Your hands glide smoothly. The skin doesn’t feel greasy.
I need the oil to stay on the skin long enough for long, slow strokes. But I also need it to absorb eventually, so the body doesn’t feel coated. Sweet almond oil does both.

It Actually Nourishes the Skin

Sweet almond oil is rich in vitamins A, D, and E, plus omega-6 and omega-9 fatty acids. Vitamin E heals sun damage and protects the skin. Vitamin A supports skin renewal. The fatty acids moisturise deeply.
The oil doesn’t just help with touch; it feeds the skin. Women notice their skin feels softer, more alive afterwards.

It’s Gentle

Almond oil is hypoallergenic. Safe for sensitive skin. In tantric massage, we work with the entire body, including delicate areas. I need an oil that won’t irritate.
Sweet almond oil is non-comedogenic; it won’t clog pores. This matters when you’re applying oil generously for hours.

No Competing Scent

I use unscented sweet almond oil. No fragrance. No smell pulls your attention away. In tantric massage, you need to stay in sensation, in the body. A strong scent can pull you into your head, into associations, into memories. The oil should disappear into the background. You should feel touch, not product.

Cold-Pressed Matters

I use cold-pressed sweet almond oil only.
Cold-pressing keeps the vitamins and nutrients intact. Heat damages them. When you’re working with the body in this way, quality matters. I’m not only looking for lubricant. I’m looking for something that honours the body.

Use Enough Oil

Don’t be stingy with the oil. I use a lot of almond oil. In tantric massage, we’re inviting the nervous system to soften. We’re asking the body to release tension it’s been holding.
Generous oil allows for touch that’s slow, continuous, comforting. The hands never drag. The sensation flows like water. This helps the mind let go. I always warm the oil to body temperature first. Cold oil on warm skin startles the nervous system. Warm oil invites the body to receive.

The Skin Is Alive

Sweet almond oil contains calcium, magnesium, iron, zinc, potassium, phosphorus — minerals essential for skin health.
The skin is a living organ. It absorbs. It responds. It remembers.
Vitamin E and fatty acids repair the collagen layer, which keeps skin supple. The oil prevents dehydration.
After a tantric massage with quality oil, your skin feels nourished for days.

Why Not Other Oils?

Coconut oil – Too thick. Solidifies in cooler temperatures. Can clog pores.
Jojoba oil – Nice, but absorbs too quickly for long sessions.
Grapeseed oil – Light, but lacks depth.
Sesame oil – Used in Ayurvedic massage, but the scent is too strong for tantric work.

Sweet almond oil is the balance. Not too thick, not too light. Not too fragrant, not odourless. Just right.

Part of the Ceremony

Before each session, I place the bottle in warm water and heat it gently. I take a moment to set an intention.

The oil becomes part of the ceremony, a bridge between my hands and your body. Between presence and sensation.
It’s about respect. Respect for the body. Respect for the vulnerability it takes to lie down and receive.
The oil carries touch. It carries warmth. It carries presence.
And sweet almond oil does this better than anything else.

Try It Yourself

If you’re curious, try it on your own skin. Warm a small amount between your palms. Apply it slowly to your arms, legs, and belly. Notice how it feels. How it absorbs.
When rubbed into the skin, it absorbs fully. Leaves your skin soft without greasiness. The body knows when something is nourishing. You don’t need to analyse it. You just feel it.

Sweet almond oil is almost magic.
It’s a simple substance that supports conscious, sacred touch.
And that’s why I use it.

Namaste

If you’re interested in experiencing a tantric massage session where every detail, including the oil, is chosen with care, visit the Session page to learn more.

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Image by Silvia